Salam
alayk..
So here i
am copying and pasting shamelessly, again.
I plead guilty to the charge of neglecting this blog. =_= But ideas seem
to come at moments when it's impossible for me to jot them down. *alasan*
Short
update:
My mini
c-ex or long case examinations will be next week. Unfortunately, just when it's the
Malaysian students turn to have the exams (we're always the last ones, for IPD
anyway) suddenly the residents say that the cases will no longer be known to
us, only the divisions of the cases (eg: cardio, pulmo etc)
Seriously.
I don't mind if they make some changes but halfway through the exams when most
did get the chance to pick their cases?
(I shouldn't be making this public. Oh well who reads this blog anyway)
It's so
unfair. But pointing that out is well, pointless so better just make the most
of it, aite? Most of it depends on our examiner so please please please let me
get a nice one who is generous and kind and will give me good marks (ameen)
-> (you still have to study farhana oi)
Please make
du'a for me. :) jazakallahu khayran~
Nevertheless,
since the story of my life is hardly that much interesting, this brings us to
this post's title. I read this at www.turntoislam.com so please don't call me a plagiat ya!
Well,
according to the author, these are 10 beautiful aspects of a muslimah. But
below it is another title "10 beaufitful aspects Muslim Men Find
Attractive In Muslim Women" okay so you can just take your pick. I think he meant beautiful though, not beaufitful
*hehe* I wonder what that means.
May Allah
grant us the gift of being one, or acquiring one if you get what i mean
*smiles*
Ameen.
1. Her Obedience to the
Creator: A practicing Muslim man loves to have a practicing muslim wife (woman); who
knows that the life of this world is nothing but a test from her Lord; giving
her an opportunity to come closer and closer to Allah, doing more and more good
deeds to please Him Azza wa jal, restricting herself from the desires of her
inner self that go against the will of her Creator.
But as for him who feared
standing before his Lord, and restrained himself from impure evil desires, and
lusts. Verily, Paradise will be his abode. (Surah An- Naaziyaat: 40-41)
2. Her Haya
(Modesty/Shyness): Haya is one of the most significant factors of a woman’s
personality. Haya according to a believer's nature refers to a bad and uneasy
feeling accompanied by embarrassment, caused by one's fear of being exposed or
censured for some unworthy or indecent conduct.[1]
Prophet Sallallahu
alaihiwasallam said: "Haya comes from Eman; Eman leads to Paradise.
Obscenity comes from antipathy; and antipathy leads to the fire." (Sahih
Al-Bukhari)
A Muslim woman feels shy
to do anything that would displease her Lord in any aspect. She has haya in her
talk, she has haya in her gaze, she has haya in her clothing, she has haya in
her walk. Her haya in her talk is that she is not soft in her speech but speaks
honorably. Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala says (interpretation of the meaning):
“O wives of the Prophet!
You are not like any other women. If you keep your duty (to Allah), then be not
soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil
desire for adultery) should be moved with desire, but speak in an honorable
manner” (Surah Al-Ahzaab:32)
Her haya in her gaze is
that she does not look at what Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala has prohibited for her
to look. Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala says (interpretation of the meaning):
And tell the believing
women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their
private parts (from illegal sexual acts)… (Verse continues) (Surah An-Nur: 31)
Her haya in her clothing
is that she does not reveal to others what Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala has
forbidden for her to reveal. Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala says (interpretation of
the meaning):
...And not to show off
their adornment except only that which is apparent (like both eyes for
necessity to see the way or outer dress like veil, gloves, head-cover, apron,
etc.), and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces,
necks and bosoms,) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands,
or their fathers, or their husband's fathers, or their sons, or their husband's
sons, or their brothers or their brother's sons, or their sister's sons, or
their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islâm), or the (female) slaves whom
their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigor, or small
children who have no sense of the feminine sex.. (Verse Continues) (Surah
An-Nur: 31)
Her haya in her walk is
that she walks modestly without attracting others attention towards herself.
Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala says (interpretation of the meaning): .
..And let them not stamp
their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you
beg Allâh to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful. (Surah
An-Nur: 31)
Abu Usayd al-Ansari
narrated that he heard Allah’s Messenger Sallallahu alaihiwasallam say to the
women on his way out of the mosque when he saw men and women mixing together on
their way home: ‘Give way (i.e., walk to the sides) as it is not appropriate
for you to walk in the middle of the road.’ Thereafter, women would walk so
close to the wall that their dresses would get caught on it. (Narrated by Abu
Dawood in "Kitab al-Adab min Sunanihi, Chapter: Mashyu an-Nisa Ma’
ar-Rijal fi at-Tariq)
A woman who has the
knowledge of Allah’s commandment to preserve her modesty, submitting herself to
the will of her creator, even after having the desire to be praised for her
beauty, is without doubt beloved to Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala and as well as to
all good believing men.
3. Her Beauty: Allah
subhanahu wa ta’ala made women beautiful in the sight of men. It’s just that
some human beings are more attracted towards some than others. Aishah
RadhiyAllahu anha said: “I heard the Prophet Sallallahu alaihiwasallam saying:
‘Souls are like conscripted soldiers; those whom they recognize, they get along
with, and those whom they do not recognize, they will not get along with.’”
(Sahih Al-Bukhari)
Al-Qurtubi said:
“Although they are all souls, they differ in different ways, so a person will
feel an affinity with souls of one kind, and will get along with them because
of the special quality that they have in common. So we notice that people of
all types will get along with those with whom they share an affinity, and will
keep away from those who are of other types. [This is like the old saying goes,
“Birds of a feather flock together”] For a believing man, a Muslim woman’s
beauty is not just how her nose looks or how big her eyes are, but her modesty,
purity of heart, and innocence make her look beautiful as well. Also Allah
subhanahu wa ta’ala makes people whom He loves, pleasing to others.
“When Allah loves someone
he calls to Jibreel Alaihissalaam saying, ‘O Jibreel, I love such and such a
person, so love him.’ Then Jibreel will call to the (angels) of the heavens,
‘Allah loves such and such a person so love him.’ And the angels will love
[that person]. And then Allah will place the pleasure in the hearts of the
people towards this person.” (Sahih Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
4. Her
Intellect/playfulness: Intellect and playfulness are two qualities of women
highly liked by men. Every man likes to have an intelligent wife who can advise
and support him in day to day matters. Khadija bint Khuwaylid RadhiyAllahu anha
was one of the most beloved wives of Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be
upon him). She supported Allah’s messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be
upon him) at the very beginning of his Prophethood when Jibreel alaihissalaam
brought the first revelation to him. Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be
upon him) always admired her and remembered her even long after her death. A
playful wife is a joy and pleasure to a man’s heart. Prophet Sallallahu
alaihiwasallam recommended Jabir bin 'Abdullah to marry a virgin so that the
two could play with each other and amuse each other. Narrated Jabir bin
'Abdullah: "My father died and left seven or nine girls and I married a
matron.
Allah's Apostle said to
me, "O Jabir! Have you married?" I said, "Yes." He said,
"A virgin or a matron?" I replied, "A matron." he said,
"Why not a virgin, so that you might play with her and she with you, and
you might amuse her and she amuse you." (Hadith continued) (Sahih Al-
Bukhari)
5. Her Truthfulness:
Being truthful and honest is an essential quality of a believer. ‘Abdullah ibn
Mas’ood RadhiyAllahu anh said: The Messenger of Allah Sallallahu alaihiwasallam
said: “I urge you to be truthful, for truthfulness leads to righteousness, and
righteousness leads to Paradise. A man will continue to be truthful and seek to
speak the truth until he is recorded with Allah as speaker of truth (Siddeeq).
And beware of lying, for lying leads to immorality and immorality leads to
Hell; a man will continue to tell lies until he is recorded with Allah as a
liar.” (Sahih Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
A person who is known to
lie repeatedly loses his trust. And if that happens in case of a marital
relationship the whole relationship falls apart. A woman who is known to be a
“Siddeeqah” certainly has a higher status in a Muslim man’s heart.
6. Her Obedience: Allah
Subhanahu wa ta’ala made man protector and maintainer of the woman and enjoined
upon her to obey him in all the matters that do not go against Quran and
Sunnah. Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Men are the protectors
and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the
other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means” (Surah
An-Nisa’: 34)
The Messenger of Allah
Sallallahu alaihiwasallam said, “The best women is she who when you look at
her, she pleases you, when you command her she obeys you, and when you are
absent, she protects her honor and your property.” (At-Tabarani, Ibn Majah)
7. Her Patience: Patience
is a characteristic that can never be praised enough. A woman who remains
patient at the times of hardship and relies on the help and mercy of Allah is
without a doubt a beloved servant of Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala. Allah says
(interpretation of the meaning):
“And Allah loves
As-Saabiroon (the patient)” (Surah Aal Imran: 146)
8. Her Cooking: Delicious
food is without a doubt weakness of men. It’s an old saying that “The Way to a
Man's Heart is through his Stomach”. We also know that one of Prophet’s
(Sallallahu alaihiwasallam) wives used to cook food that he liked a lot and due
to that Aishah radhiyAllahu anha would get jealous, because she didn’t know how
to cook that.
9. Her Contentment with Rizq:
No man likes to have a woman who is always complaining about how less her
husband earns or how rich her other friends are. A good Muslimah is the one who
thank Allah for what He has blessed her with and she is thankful to her husband
for what he provides her with. Abu Hurairah RadhiyAllahu anh reported: The
Prophet Sallallahu alaihiwasallam said, "Richness is not the abundance of
wealth, rather it is self-sufficiency.'' (Sahih Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
10. Good Manners: A woman
of good manners is a blessing from Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala. When she speaks,
she speaks honorably, why she deals with others she deals with them kindly. She
is polite with elders, loving to children, and good to her fellow folks. It is
related by 'Abdullah bin Amr that the Prophet Sallallahu alaihiwasallam said:
"The best of you are those who possess the best of manners." (Sahih
Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
p/s: I
wonder what would happen if a muslimah suddenly writes something like 10
charming aspects of a muslim man. I'm sure it would be deemed inappropriate or
something. Anyway, its better if we ask that to the scholars, since women tend
to follow their heart in these things. And muslim women also are lacking in
'ilm. We are left behind by men, whilst we have a great example in Aishah
Radhiyallahu Anh. She was the prophet's wife and known to be very knowledgeable
in the deen...
But anyways, I'm
sure it already is written somewhere by the ulama'. But it's the same
both ways. If you 'want', then 'be' first. All 10 listed above, I'm sure it's
not news. We've heard of it before. May Allah give us ease of actually being
rather than just knowing... ameen3!
p/s2: For the umpteenth time, I really miss life in Jatinangor. (even though I just came back from there today) I miss my usrah sisters and life there :(
But Allah is always teaching us something.
Always.
And He put me here for a reason so lets not be unthankful...
Allahul musta'an.
A lot of adjustment is needed, most of it is adjusting the mind.
and of course,
the heart.
But Allah is always teaching us something.
Always.
And He put me here for a reason so lets not be unthankful...
Allahul musta'an.
A lot of adjustment is needed, most of it is adjusting the mind.
and of course,
the heart.
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