*tajuk post sangatlah tak original

Salam alayk.. 


Saya kini berada di rotasi Ilmu Kesehatan Anak.
Alhamdulillah, sangat menyenangkan :)

what's up doc?

"... dan sesiapa yang menjaga keselamatan hidup seorang manusia, maka seolah-olah dia telah menjaga keselamatan hidup manusia seluruhnya...." (Al-Maidah : 32)

Beberapa minggu lalu, terjadi sebuah kisah yang dekat di hati saya. Ada seorang sahabat menarik saya ke tepi dan mengatakan ingin berkongsi sesuatu... dalam bahasa lain, curhat.

Saya pada masa tu, berdebar-debar. Tak dapat nak jangka apanya yang mahu dikongsi.

"Kenapa?" Saya bertanya.


Kami duduk di suatu sudut dan dia pun memulakan ceritanya... Tidak semena-mena air matanya tumpah. Saya kaget. Rupanya sahabat itu kesal dengan tingkah laku salah seorang teman baiknya. Apa yang berlaku, itu bukanlah point utama di sini, tetapi keikhlasan sahabat itu, kerisauannya terhadap kawan baiknya sehingga menangis kerana merasakan tidak mampu berbuat apa-apa... Bagi saya itulah erti persahabatan yang sebenar.


Kita bersahabat bukan kerana ingin ada yang sentiasa mem'betul'kan tindakan kita, tetapi yang sentiasa mahu membetulkan kita... Anda mengerti maksud saya?


Jika seorang sahabat itu sentiasa mahu setuju dengan apa yang kita buat meskipun salah, ketahuilah dia bukanlah sahabat yang benar!

Bahkan yang sering menegurmu, menunjukkan kesalahanmu, mahu membawamu ke syurga, itulah sahabat hakiki.....


Sangat sedih dan rugi jika kita mempunyai sahabat yang baik namun kita abaikan.


Mereka bersedih kerana kita, namun, kita melakukan apa saja seenaknya


Mereka menegur kekhilafan kita, namun kita mengingkari malah kembali memarahi


Mereka benci tindakan kita, malah kita semakin ligat mengajaknya bersubahat


Mereka menangis kerana kelalaian kita, tetapi kita gembira dan leka dengan dunia yang di'milik'i kita


Ya Allah, kurniakanlah aku seseorang yang menyayangiku seperti ini... 
Yang dapat menunjukkan aku ke jalan yang benar di saat aku leka dengan kelemahan diriku...




Ameen...

Alhamdulillah, I passed the SOOCA exams at the Neurology Department.
It was quite nerve wrecking, I'll write down about it later insyaAllah.
Will begin the next rotation at Psychiatry Department~! Yeay. 
Hope all goes well.

Heading to Jatinangor to visit my dear sisters.



Kita hanya manusia, dan manusia sering terlupa. Marilah mengingatkan sesama kita, moga berjumpa di syurga~

Whenever we feel that we're losing our way, that feeling itself should make us strive to get back to our old rhythm again. Sometimes Allah gives us that feeling so that we seek Him, rather than being complacent and doing something just for the sake of habit.... 


Watched a video just now, and couldn't help feeling so touched. 


May Allah bless this speaker and may there be many more like him...


We need da'ies who preach with love, with patience and sincerity... not with hatred and full of judgement of others...


This is just what I think from what's happening now in our beloved country. Sometimes we feel just because we are on the 'right' side we can just throw the truth to everyone else regardless of the background of the listeners. That it's okay to speak harshly, to be cynical, just because we disagree with other people.
Syeikh Mufti Menk's words suddenly popped into my head: Sometimes we fight about who's right or wrong until we forget about what is right or wrong.


Da'wah is an art...
Don't let our rash decisions pull us farther away from the people.
In the end, we are the ones at loss.


And remember that Rasulullah sent his message of tauhid throughout the world full with love.


"Whoever doesn't love, will not be loved"


This is the video that I watched. May it be beneficial for us, insyaAllah...


May Allah guide us to the right path, towards Jannatul Firdaus and keep us away from His Wrath and Hellfire. Amiin.





Kita hanya manusia, dan manusia sering terlupa. Marilah mengingatkan sesama kita, moga berjumpa di syurga~

Ayah kepada seorang teman baik telah kembali ke rahmatullah. Innalillahi wainna ilaihi raji'un...

Cukuplah kematian itu sebagai peringatan bagimu...

Moga ruhnya tenang di sana.

Moga terus kuat sahabatku...

Eventhough you see death on a daily basis, you never get used to it.

Leave your own practices behind, because now we have the legitimate way to do things.

Where do we draw the line for tolerance?

May Allah ease.



Kita hanya manusia, dan manusia sering terlupa. Marilah mengingatkan sesama kita, moga berjumpa di syurga~

"Engkau tidak meninggalkan sesuatu perkara kerana Allah SWT melainkan Dia pasti menggantikan untukmu sesuatu yang lebih baik dari apa yang kamu tinggalkan itu keranaNya."

Manusia, seringkali 'take things for granted'.
Biasanya benda-benda besar kita nampak namun perkara kecil sering kita remehkan... sedangkan perkara yang dikatakan remeh itulah yang mungkin menentukan ke mana destinasi kita di akhirat kelak.


Saya maksudkan hubungan dengan keluarga, jiran dan sahabat-sahabat yang dekat dengan kita.
Bagaimanakah kita menyantuni mereka?


Kadang-kadang, kita fikir disebabkan kita rapat dengan orang itu, maka mereka patut menerima kita seadanya walaupun kita banyak berbuat salah kepada mereka.
Kitalah yang harus memegang pemikiran sebegitu. Bukan mengharapkan orang lain...
Sebagai sahabat, tetangga, anak, adik, kakak atau abang, wajar bahkan wajib untuk kita menyantuni mereka dengan baik dan cermat.


Cuba kita fikirkan sebentar, adakah pernah terdapat kata-kata kita yang menyakiti orang yang terdekat dengan kita? Mungkin tidak kita sedari perkara ini. Atau kita menyangka orang itu tidak marah atau berkecil hati sebab 'kita kan kawan'...


Barangkali terpengaruh dengan cerita-cerita di tv, dimana ada watak-watak sekelompok sahabat yang terlalu jujur antara satu sama lain, hingga ke tahap menghina kawan secara gurauan pun tidak menjadi masalah.


Dari satu sisi, kejujuran mereka itu harus kita contohi. Namun tidaklah sampai akhirnya terlalu jujur hingga menyakiti orang-orang di sekeliling kita dan menyebabkan mereka menjauh dari kita..


"Sesungguhnya manusia paling buruk kedudukannya di sisi Allah adalah orang yang ditinggalkan manusia lain karena ditakut keburukannya.” (HR Imam Bukhari, Muslim, Abu Daud dan At Tirmidzi)


Semoga kita dijauhkan dari termasuk golongan di atas...
Jujur, itu pasti... Mempunyai sifat rahmah terhadap orang yang dekat dengan kita juga haruslah seiring.


Indahnya Islam, mengajar kita untuk sederhana dalam segala segi.


Jangan melampau, dan jangan meremehkan segala sesuatu. Meskipun titik tengah itu terkadang sukar untuk kita temui, insyaAllah usaha kita ke arah itu sentiasa dinilai olehNya insyaAllah...


Dari ‘Ummul Mu’minin ‘Aisyah ra berkata: Rasulullah Salallahualaihiwassalam bersabda :


“Sebaik-baik kalian adalah orang yang paling baik terhadap keluarganya, dan aku adalah orang yang paling baik terhadap keluargaku.” (HR At-Tirmidzi) 


Cermatilah gurauan yang kita lemparkan.
Hati-hati dengan kata-kata yang kita lontarkan.
Meskipun kita tidak menyukai seseorang, itu bukan lesen untuk kita melayaninya dengan buruk..
Allah itu Maha Pengasih. Dia tidak akan menghukum kita atas apa yang di dalam hati kita, namun Allah akan hukum kita atas apa yang kita lakukan dengan anggota kita.


Terkadang Allah menguji kita dengan orang-orang yang berada di sekeliling kita.
Kita disakiti, adakah kita akan turut menyakiti?
Atau kita tetap memaniskan muka terhadap orang-orang yang mungkin belum memahami?


“Dan janganlah kamu memalingkan mukamu dari manusia (karena sombong) dan janganlah kamu berjalan di muka bumi dengan angkuh. Sesungguhnya Allah tidak menyukai orang-orang yang sombong lagi membanggakan diri” ( Luqman: 18).


Ibnu Katsir menjelaskan mengenai ayat tersebut, “Janganlah palingkan wajahmu dari orang lain ketika engkau berbicara dengannya atau diajak bicara. Muliakanlah lawan bicaramu dan jangan bersifat sombong. Bersikap lemah lembutlah dan berwajah cerialah di hadapan orang lain” (Tafsir Al Qur’an Al ‘Azhim, 11: 56).


Susahlah kan hidup ni kalau semua benda nak stress memanjang. Orang yang melihat wajah kita pun jadi serabut. Banyakkan senyum, sedekah free dengan mengeluarkan tenaga dan kontraksi otot yang sedikit :p


Makanya... harus merendahkan hati. Tawadhu' itu amalan hati yang memerlukan hati yang bersih. Sekadar nasihat untuk diri sendiri terutamanya, berusahalah untuk melembutkan hati dalam berbicara.


Bukanlah salah untuk menyampaikan pendapat kita, namun nada yang lembut dan bahasa yang elok itu lebih lunak pada telinga pendengar, bukan? Saya sendiri merasai kesukaran ini, mungkin kerana kononnya tegas jadi percakapan pun tidak terlalu diperhatikan. -_-'
Mungkin sebab tu sekarang dah jadi makin pendiam.
(Not good sebab macam mengelakkan sesuatu tanpa memperbaikinya. Doakan saya ya.)


Apapun sebagai dai'e, suka tak suka, kena jadi approachable. Bukan peramah, kena jadi peramah.
Tak suka senyum, kena banyak senyum. Suka menyorok dalam bilik, kena rajin keluar berjumpa adik-adik.
Pokoknya akhlak kita kena sentiasa diperbaiki dan diperhatikan.


“Sesungguhnya kalian tidak bisa menarik hati manusia dengan harta kalian. Akan tetapi kalian bisa menarik hati mereka dengan wajah berseri dan akhlak yang mulia” (HR. Al Hakim dalam mustadroknya. Al Hakim mengatakan bahwa hadits ini shahih).


Akhirul kalam, semoga kita menjadi manusia yang sentiasa bergerak ke arah kebaikan. Semoga dosa-dosa kita tidak membelenggu kita daripada kembali kepadaNya.

Tipsnya mudah. Peliharalah hubungan dengan Allah. Jangan pernah meninggalkan al-Quran dan mentadabburi ayat-ayatnya kerana di situlah sumber hidayah buat kita sehari-hari...


"dan barangsiapa berpaling dari pengajaran Allah yang Maha Pengasih (al-Quran) , Kami biarkan syaitan (menyesatkannya) dan menjadi teman karibnya" ( Az-Zukhruf 43: 36 )


Gerun bila fikir jika Allah meninggalkan kita, dan di tangan syaitan pulak tu. Memang prognosis buruklah jawabnya. huhu. 


Jom menjadi manusia yang lebih baik! biiznillah... :)




p/s: Adik-adik cakap muka makin berseri-seri sejak kebelakangan ni. Iyolah tu. Nampak sangat rinduu. ekeke


p/s2: Akibat lama tidak menulis, tanda-tanda berkarat sudah kelihatan.


 Kita hanya manusia, dan manusia sering terlupa. Marilah mengingatkan sesama kita, moga berjumpa di syurga~

Salam alayk..

Writer's block. I've become this quiet, pensieve person with something quite like stage-fright. Very unlike me. Life is a stage, they say. Does that mean I'm afraid of life? I hope not. I wonder what's wrong with me. It's so weird.
But maybe this article has something to do with it.
Yes, sometimes I worry too much.
But I read a great quote just now:


If what's ahead scares you... and what's behind hurts you... then... just look Above! ALLAH never fails to help you!


A true believer never doubts Allah. 


Happy reading! :)

It’s never easy to let go. Or is it? Most of us would agree that there are few things harder than letting go of what we love. And yet, sometimes that’s exactly what we have to do. Sometimes we love things that we can’t have. Sometimes we want things that are not good for us. And sometimes we love what Allah does not love. To let go of these things is hard. Giving up something the heart adores is one of the hardest battles we ever have to fight.

But what if it didn’t have to be such a battle? What if it didn’t have to be so hard? Could there ever be an easy way to let go of an attachment? Yes. There is.

Find something better.

They say you don’t get over someone until you find someone or something better. As humans, we don’t deal well with emptiness. Any empty space must be filled. Immediately. The pain of emptiness is too strong. It compels the victim to fill that place. A single moment with an empty spot causes excruciating pain. That’s why we run from distraction to distraction, and from attachment to attachment.

In the quest to free the heart, we speak a lot about breaking our false dependencies. But then there’s always the question of ‘how?’ Once a false attachment has been developed, how do we break free? Often it feels too hard. We get addicted to things, and can’t seem to let them go. Even when they hurt us. Even when they damage our lives and our bond with God. Even when they are so unhealthy for us. We just can’t let them go. We are too dependent on them. We love them too much and in the wrong way. They fill something inside of us that we think we need…that we think we can’t live without. And so, even when we struggle to give them up, we often abandon the struggle because it’s too hard.

Why does that happen? Why do we have so much trouble sacrificing what we love for what God loves? Why can’t we just let go of things? I think we struggle so much with letting go of what we love, because we haven’t found something we love more to replace it.

When a child falls in love with a toy car, he becomes consumed with that love. But what if he can’t have the car? What if he has to walk by the store every day, and see the toy he can’t have? Every time he walks by, he would feel pain. And he may even struggle not to steal it. Yet, what if the child looks past the store window and sees a Real car? What if he sees the Real Ferrari? Would he still struggle with his desire for the toy? Would he still have to fight the urge to steal it? Or would he be able to walk right past the toy—the disparity in greatness annihilating the struggle?

We want love. We want money. We want status. We want this life. And like that child, we too become consumed with these loves. So when we can’t have those things, we are that child in a store, struggling not to steal them. We are struggling not to commit haram for the sake of what we love. We are struggling to let go of the haram relationships, business dealings, actions, dress. We are struggling to let go of the love of this life. We are the stumbling servant struggling to let go of the toy…because it’s all we see.

This whole life and everything in it is like that toy car. We can’t let go of it because we haven’t found something greater. We don’t see the Real thing. The Real version. The Real model.

Allah (swt) says,

“What is the life of this world but amusement and play? But verily the Home in the Hereafter,- that is life indeed, if they but knew.” (29:64)

When describing this life, Allah uses the Arabic word for ‘life’: الْحَيَاةُ. But, when describing the next life, Allah here uses the highly exaggerated term for life, الْحَيَوَانُ. The next life is the Real life. The Realer life. The Real version. And then Allah ends the ayah by saying “If they but knew”. If we could see the Real thing, we could get over our deep love for the lesser, fake model.

In another ayah, God says:

“But you prefer the worldly life, while the Hereafter is better and more enduring.” (87:16-17)

The Real version is better in quality (خَيْرٌ) and better in quantity (أَبْقَىٰ). No matter how great what we love in this life is, it will always have some deficiency, in both quality (imperfections) and quantity (temporary).

This is not to say that we cannot have or even love things of this life. As believers we are told to ask for good in this life and the next. But it is like the toy car and the real car. While we could have or even enjoy the toy car, we realize the difference. We understand fully that there is a lesser model (dunya: coming from the root word ‘daniya’, meaning ‘lower’) and there is the Real model (hereafter).

But how does that realization help us in this life? It helps because it makes the ‘struggle’ to follow the halal, and refrain from the haram easier. The more we can see the Real thing, the easier it becomes to give up the ‘unreal’—when necessary. That does not mean we have to give up the ‘unreal’ completely, or all the time. Rather it makes our relationship with the lesser model (dunya) one in which if and when we are asked to give something up for the sake of what is Real, it is no longer difficult. If we are asked to refrain from a prohibition that we want, it becomes easier. If we are asked to be firm in a commandment that we don’t want, it becomes easier. We become the matured child who likes to have the toy, but if ever asked to choose between the toy and the Real thing, see a ‘no-brainer’. For example, many of the Prophet’s (pbuh) companions had wealth. But when the time came, they could easily give half or all of it for Allah’s sake.

This focus also transforms what we petition for help or approval. If we’re in desperate need of something, we will appeal to the servant—only when we don’t see or know the King. But if we’re on our way to meet that King and we run into His servant, we may greet the servant, be kind to the servant, even love the servant. But we will not waste time trying to impress the servant, when there is a King to impress. We will never waste effort appealing to the servant for our need, while the King is the One in control. Even if the King had given some authority to the servant, we’d know very well that the power to give and take rests ultimately with the King—and the King alone. This knowledge comes only from knowing and seeing the King.  And this knowledge completely transforms how we interact with the servant.

Seeing the Real thing transforms the way we love. Ibn Taymiyyah (RA) discussed this concept when he said: “If your heart is enslaved by someone who is forbidden for him: One of the main causes for this miserable situation is turning away from Allah, for once the heart has tasted worship of Allah and sincerity towards Him, nothing will be sweeter to it than that, nothing will be more delightful or more precious. No one leaves his beloved except for another one he loves more, or for fear of something else. The heart will give up corrupt love in favor of true love, or for fear of harm.”

One of our greatest problems as an ummah is as the Prophet (pbuh) told us in a hadith: wahn (love of dunya and hatred of death). We’ve fallen in love with dunya. And anytime you are in love, it becomes next to impossible to get over that love or separate from it—until you are able to fall in love with something greater. It is next to impossible to dislodge this destructive love of dunya from our hearts, until we find something greater to replace it. Having found a greater love, it becomes easy to get over another one. When the love of God, His messenger (pbuh) and the Home with Him is really seen, it overpowers and dominates any other love in the heart. The more that love is seen, the more dominate it becomes. And thereby the easier it will be to really actualize the statement of Ibraheem (AS):

“Say, ‘Indeed, my prayer, my service of sacrifice, my living and my dying are for Allah, Lord of the worlds.’” (6:162)

So in letting go, the answer lies in love. Fall in love. Fall in love with something greater. Fall in love with the Real thing. See the Mansion.

Only then, will we stop playing in the dollhouse.


http://www.yasminmogahed.com/2012/03/01/fall-in-love-with-the-real-thing/